So I was going to participate in Bandom Big Bang this year, I’ve done beta for it before and I’ve always been a huge advocate of it as a whole because it provides this amazing platform for smaller fandom pairings to get out there and be recognized.
Not only that but it;’s just a great experience and opportunity for amazing, unique fic and for writer’s to show their talent.
I am 7K into what I think is going to be a probably epic, hilarious Skippy (Mike Carden/Kevin Jonas) fic that involves Mike as a porn star with enormous talent (winkwink nudgenudge) - I made the logical assumption that because this was a pairing allowed in previous years, the rules would stand the same this year in spite of the new moderators.
So imagine my surprise when I found out that the Jonas Brothers aren’t considered a ‘band’ under the new mods undefined umbrella ‘bandom’ term.
I was obviously upset, because I had read the FAQ post, and the Mod Posts and the sign up rules post and I couldn’t find anywhere it was explicitly stated. (It was apparently in one of the FAQ comment threads, but it has been my experience that if a question or concern is raised in the FAQ comment threads the mods addend the FAQ post to reflect those clarifications. It’s only logical).
So I made a post to BBB!talk because I was concerned and upset, and my initial post came across as rude and disrespectful. Obviously it is never my intention generally to be rude or disrespectful. My discontent and concern outweighed my ability to impartially convey this however and so when I awoke this morning it was only to find two dozen responses all along the same exact thread.
I was being outright rude, disrespectful. I was behaving inappropriately, I was acting like an entitled child throwing a tantrum.
I tried to explain myself, I apologized publicly for the way my initial post sounded. I take accountability for when my meaning is misconstrued. That is on me. So I apologized.
The overwhelming response I got was that no one seemed to read my post. They focused instead on what I felt were valid concerns and instead of offering ideas or opinions as to why things were the way they were the commenters isntead took the opportunity to villainize me, bully me and continue calling me childish and entitled.
I am entitled to asking for a public moderator post defining their terminology. I am entitled to voicing my concern and discontent and you know something, nowhere did I ever name-call a single person. I implied that I believed the choice to exclude a single pairing based off reasoning that is frankly entirely vague and nonsensical - to be because it may have been distasteful. Sure! Not everyone likes the JoBros. Whatever.
But I wanted to know why and instead I got wank and I got bullied and frankly BBB you can suck my fucking dick if that is the kind of community you’re trying to foster.
I cannot imagine how anyone else would ever feel comfortable publicly voicing concern over something if the response they can expect to get from the community participants is outright malice, and insults.
I will however say that i have a great deal of respect for the moderators who handled my initial post with great deal of aplomb and dignity and managed to mostly answer my questions. Though I still don’t believe their decision to exclude it makes any sort of sense.#rant #pay no attention to this post Im jsut kind of ticked off